July 10, 2023
Cincinnati, OH
Dear Marianne,
Well, we’ve hit the dog days here in the Midwest. Two key indicators they’ve arrived: everyone is surly all the time and Big Gulps go off sale. Hell, maybe the two are related. I don’t know.
Me? Despite paying more for my Big Gulps, I’ve fallen into a state of calm I don’t often see. What I should say, I guess, is I’m in a state of calm Michele doesn’t often see. I’m usually not paying that much attention to myself, whether I’m calm or unhinged. Actually, I sometimes do notice when I’m not unhinged. It’s notable. And I will say this–to coin a phrase you’re fond of–in defense of unhinged, at least unhinged is 100% honest 100% of the time. Nobody, me included, fakes unhinged. Except in movies. And on 24/7 cable news.
I credit my current state of calm to a pair of things. First, the Reds are arguably the best team in baseball and inarguably the coolest, which is how it is supposed to be. And, second, I finished the great, big talk that for a year or two felt like the thing my whole life was leading up to. It went pretty well and now it feels like my life has maybe culminated since I’m no longer working towards this big thing. Now it’s kind of like I’m being stretchered away from it. But I know me. It won’t be long before I’m bored and once again working on something big, although I think the next “something big” might be several smaller bits. Which, of course, if assembled together, will become something huge! Stay tuned, I guess.
But the whole trip and the talk went well. The closing keynote at the International Master Gardeners Conference in Overland Park, KS. Totally my kind of audience. A big room packed with a thousand people, none of whom got out much over the past three years and therefore had unknowingly lowered their standards on what an entertaining and informational talk should be. Got a few big laughs at jokes I thought would go over well. Nothing lifts me like a big laugh rolling through a big hall.
That said, you know what else feels pretty good? No talks on the docket for a couple of months. I love doing them but they do stress me out. And the travel. And the getting behind in everything else. But the garden never fell too far behind and now it feels kind of caught up. Hence, enough calm to go to a baseball game. Or to watch one on TV. Or do nothing at all. Feels weird. Feels nice. Feels like it can’t go on for too much longer.
Another big lift: we finally finished the application and the Cincinnati Zoo & Botanical Garden got Level IV Arbnet accreditation. Only Zoo in the world which can claim that! News of that came on the same day we picked our first tomato.
But the calm I’ve been enjoying has been somewhat offset by some very bad pain and suffering. Sciatica. Which I’ve had before. Bullwhip sharp pain down one leg until you can hobble to a shoe store, get a new pair of shoes, and, voila, it’s gone and I’m normal. But this time it’s different. First, prolonged, no matter what shoes I wear. It feels like my vertebrae are pinching off my spinal cord, much like what I do when I kink a hose to stop the water so I can change from a nozzle to a sprinkler without having to walk all the way back to the spigot. Because walking is electric shock agony down the back of both legs. Marianne, for weeks now, this has been my experience. I’ve been lurching around my garden like some kind of monster washing ashore from a filthy lagoon. And, yes, I can hear what the neighbors are saying and it’s not very nice.
But, what am I doing? Instead of dwelling on me, I guess I should respond to your letter. But I won’t. I’m way more interested in your Rant post that–if it should go viral enough–might bring down capitalism. Your anti-influencer blog. At your age, and your place in life, I understand your point of view completely. Especially in tandem with your letter, which was sort of like getting cluster bombed by fun, happiness, and good fortune. You must understand. I’m older than you. And not so rich. And no longer good-looking like I once was. Marianne, I have fewer years–none of which could be described as potentially “quality years”–to live. So, what I’m thinking is I’ve got to go for whatever I can and I’ve got to do it now. Therefore, yeah, I’m going to become an influencer. Or die trying.
I mean it.
So I wrote it on my calendar to walk down to the libray on Thursday and check out a book on how to become an influencer. Or, who knows, maybe I’ll splurge and go to a bookstore and buy one. And, then, once I’ve read it a couple times, I’ll go for it. Hard. Head on! I actually practiced some selfies today. I based my poses on the daily dribble of profile pictures I get from young women who–out of the blue–choose to become new Instagram followers of me. They especially like to do this pursed lips, pouty thing. I don’t know why. But they all do it, and, you know, if it’s working for them… Anyway, I have no idea who all these women are or how they’ve heard about me, but, gosh, maybe I’m practically an influencer already!
But don’t worry. I won’t forget about you when I’m famous. Especially if you help me pick out my best selfies. Which are the sexiest? I can’t decide.
Sorry the letter is so short. The sciatica is so bad it even hurts when I type.
Scott
Scott – I so very much enjoy your letters to Marianne (and hers back to you). I look at all the Garden Rant contributors as “Educators” and my nose turns up at reducing any of you to mere Influencers. You all are so much more. I would certainly enjoy following you if you had a YouTube channel. Any chance of squeezing that into your busy future?
Sciatica.. oooooh.. I’ve had my share.. there is a leg lift exercise that helps … some.. cortozone shot helps more.. But what really will take it off your mind.. the pain.. is a big helping of Cincinnati Chili.. 5 way! It’s the cinnamon in the sauce.. (Greek style) that makes it soooo bloody good! Wish we had it in Virginia! I am doing Ivy Murder here in Manassas. Have pulled up about 20 , 40 gal barrels stuffed full so far.. Then doing lasagna gardening with the newspaper and mulch. Hoping it will stay away or controlled in my lifetime.. I’m 75. Hmm.
Great letter. I laughed and laughed. Except about sciatica. I have one word for you: acupuncture. I pretty much could not work for more than a year and a half. 3 or so months of a wonderful Chinese trained acupuncturist and it’s gone! Super relaxing treatments too!
Hi Scott, wanted to use that one in a comment to Marianne’s rant, but here it is now for you: In the past, influenza was an illness. Now it’s a way of making your living.
Not sure how Marianne will weigh in, but my favorite picture would be the one with the pursed lips, and then holding a tool with some kind of dreamy expression, kind of deer in the headlight. And put something appropriate in the background! I’m sure the big box store can help with selecting the right plant (not more than one).
Good luck wit the sciatica. Glad the other commentators have good advice, too. I’d add physical therapy or a really knowledgeable massage therapist as my suggestion. Just so that the neighbors don’t hear you scream and curse anymore.
Love reading about plants and anout aging, too, and how we all cope with it. I am not able to garden (inoperable brain tumors that affect my stability, so leaning over is not good) but love to read about others and see lovely photos on the internet. FB groups ae my favorites. Thanks for all the photos an dinfo.
Congratulations on the zoo’s certification!
Sciatica. 1 word. Birkenstocks.
No more than 1 hour a day for the first 2 weeks. A few hours a day after that.
Takes about 2 months to fully break in your first pair.
Lol, you’re not really breaking in the sandals. It’s wood with a thin layer of leather. You’re really reshaping your feet to the position they should have been in in the first place.
Life is a dream after that.
Eventually it feels better than “acts”, as they say in “The Firm”.
I will never look at kindly Wilfred Brimley the same way again.
Congratulations on the Level IV Arbnet accreditation-a very big deal. Kudos for a successful presentation to Master Gardeners. I’m sure you inspired them to keep up their efforts to grow successful new gardeners. I feel your pain…quite literally as I have also again torqued my back, this time trying to move a 55 lb. spaniel who didn’t want to move, compounded by a road trip that couldn’t wait. Gardening never hurts my back, it is all the other stupid stuff I do. What usually works for me are short term NSAIDS and a sincere re-commitment to stretching several times daily and floating around in a pool with a cool beverage and no worries. Hope you are better soon.
You poor thing! My husband suffers from back issues and it is awful for him (and me, cause I can’t do anything to make it better). Congratulations on the zoo award.
Weighing in on your poses: Go for pouty with off the shoulder logo-branded gardenwear. Get it all in one shot.
And I second the accupuncture vote–does a world of good for my feet, and I don’t care if it’s all in my head, I’ll take it. Plus I get a super good nap once a month when I go.
Finally, I caught your talk at the IMGC in Kansas City. You did a great job, and your talk was a fun way to end the conference. I wasn’t fast enough to get a photo of your chemical formula comparison to share with my son who is a Chemistry major with a Horticulture minor, but I shared that info with him and he was going to check it out. Nice to meet you in person after one of the seminars as well.
Don’t treat the symptoms, get it fixed. I had a single spinal fusion done five years ago and I have had no problems since. Often they can just trim the disk where it is bulging but I had no disk left to trim. Bone on bone.
I so feel your pain. The garden has suffered because of it for sure.