Behind the posts, articles, conferences and social media, there’s a backstory. Have you kept up with the digital correspondence between Ranters Scott Beuerlein and Marianne Willburn? You can start here, or go back and find the entire correspondence at Dear Gardener.
Cincinnati, Ohio
June 30, 2024
Dear Marianne,
You are so justified in the hurt and anger you so lyrically expressed in your recent letter(s), and I say you have every right to lash out at me in the severe way in which you did. I have been dreading this day, and it came. And it did not disappoint. You really have a way with words when you’re mad.
And, of course, I have excuses. And some good ones too. After so many years of needing excuses so many times for so many things, I’m pretty good at them. Sometimes I actually assemble and articulate exonerating facts, like a good defense lawyer. Other times, I just conjure something up out of thin air. Like a cad. Practice makes perfect, I guess. But this time I will spare you excuses, both real and made up. I will only say that I am a bad friend. In fact, a bad person. A bad person who is good at excuses but might be transitioning into groveling. In fact, I think my future lies in groveling. As I lose some of my edge, excuses get harder. And groveling looks easy.
So I meant to write but got overwhelmed and didn’t. And the more I didn’t, something awful happened. Shame crept in. And as each consecutive week ticked off, and—I sensed—you were becoming more and more incensed, the shame got worse. Until it sort of took over. And then I couldn’t write because I didn’t know what to say.
Marianne, it got so bad I considered faking my own death. And I had a pretty good plan too, I think. I was going to wind a very long hose to the way far back reaches of my yard and lay a skeleton down beside the very end of it. Then I would just disappear. Hop a train. Begin a life of drifting from town to town, sitting around small fires, eating beans from cans and making small talk with other lost people running from shameful acts (or non-acts) in their pasts. People who also didn’t write to their friends, or might have pinched the tip of a sedum from a friend’s garden, or who told their physical therapists they’d been doing their stretches.
So, that’s what I expected to be doing while the scene back home would speak for itself. The cops would shake their heads and paint an outline around “my” skeleton, take a few pictures, and deduce what they needed to from the baked garden around them, new plant tags next to withered wisps of once promising plants, and—most of all–“my” bony fingers wrapped around the nozzle of a still running hose. They’d see this, take off their sunglasses, utter something pithy, and close the investigation.
Where it all fell apart was when I couldn’t find a skeleton on Amazon. At least not an affordable one in my size. So, I put faking my own death on the back burner for a while and wallowed in my shame until your letter arrived and made it all moot. Being lambasted like that was actually liberating. It brought the situation to the fore and kicked me out of my craven, cowering state, and forced me to do this here. Write back. And choose between making excuses and groveling.
And I’ve chosen to grovel. So imagine this order of things. I’ll extend my neck. Submissively. You’ll show your fangs and snarl. I’ll whimper. You’ll seemingly turn your attention to something distant for a second which will allow me to slink away, and, just like that, the order of the pack will be restored. And we can then go about setting out on a hunt, turning our focus on taking down big game like, apparently, Nandina-haters. But more on this in a moment. I want to talk about my garden a little first.
This year was the best Spring I can remember. It just rolled out soft and sweet. No late freezes, no extreme temps, no bad storms, and lovely, beautiful, consistent precipitation. It was wonderful and I don’t know which was worse, that the heat and drought came on like someone had thrown a switch or knowing that it would. But our reality is, what we’re all doing now, is desperately dragging hoses and learning new gardening lessons we’ll probably forget.
Like this one. From now on, Marianne, I am going to plan my new plantings better. Not one new plant for each of my many garden beds, but several new plants for one, maybe two, beds. Because having to water one new plant in every nook and cranny of my garden until they are established is such a nightmare. It means I’m dragging watering cans or hoses all over creation. Whereas if I had been smart and concentrated most or all of them in close proximity, I could drag a hose and leave it there, walk over every other day, turn the valve, hose ‘em down, and be done with it. Next year, I’m going to remember to do this like a smart person would, and, thus, move slightly ahead of where I am now.
Something I’m going to do this year is kill my Ligularia japonica ‘Chinese Dragon.’ Such a beautiful plant. I love the leaves, and the flowers, but hate the crash, which it does every summer, wilting like it had been dropped in a pot of boiling water. This year, heat alone did the trick. It didn’t even wait for the drought. I can water but I can’t do a damned thing about the heat, so it has got to go. Even as I watch it now, struggling so hard to live, I’m not second-guessing my decision. Its fate is sealed. The first spare moment I’ve got, shovel pruned.
Maybe the biggest lesson I’ve learned from the big Heat and Drought of June 2024 is that it makes animals crazy. Yes, they’re always crazy but this year I’ve seen absolute lunacy. Little round holes—a virtual grid pattern of destruction—dug by whatever animal for whatever reason in heretofore perfect patches of Mazus repens and Saxifraga stolonifera. Rabbits eating everything and doing so in broad daylight, usually hopping lazily just a few feet beyond my reach. Deer somehow getting into, and then back out of, the fenced-in back garden. Marianne, it’s as if they’re jewel thieves who can somehow do a floor routine through the museum’s laser security system. Voles scampering between beds at unusually high frequency. Herds of millipedes throwing themselves into the pool in droves. Vultures circling overhead every time I’m watering the back, far reaches of my garden.
You know, sometimes I have these ideals. At my loftiest moments, I think I’m gardening for wildlife. I even tell other people I’m doing it. I even tell other people that they should be doing it. Trouble is, the animals took me at my word and just ran with it. With no sense of decorum. And they come over and just totally make themselves at home. They eat whatever they want and as much of it as they can. They eat flowers. They eat buds just about to flower. They chew off things they don’t even eat! And then they mate in front of my wife. They take big dumps right in the middle of my paths. Marianne, I’m done. I’ve had it with them. There’s a reason we call thuggish, awful humans animals!
As for Nandina? Another day. I hear what you’re saying. I agree with what you’re saying. I just don’t need a win right now. In fact, now that I’ve learned to grovel, I might not need to win ever again. Maybe a little rain will restore my willingness to fight. I’ll let you know if that happens.
Yours always,
Scott
PS – Heat and drought survivors. As you pointed out, Verbena bonariensis. And lilacs and grapes.
I laughed out loud and that was a rare thing since we have the same garden meltdown here in the Piedmont— a gorgeous and satisfying Spring and then the same switch was thrown. Relentless sun on the longest days of the year and no water. Shade? The large oak that shaded my entire front shade garden is gone so even more heartache. So encouraging to know other gardeners are miserable too. Thank you! I hope Marianne accepts your groveling.
Misery loves company! And, between you and me, although nothing has been said, I’m willing to bet whatever dignity I have left that Marianne loved my groveling!
OMG, right there with ya, buddy. It’s the same here in the “cool” southwest mountain region of Virginia. Heat and drought like I haven’t seen in 25 years of gardening here. Too many hoses, too much time, trying to save the new plants. Ooops, gotta run change a hose out. Good luck everyone.
I hope you got some rain. We finally did. Still, down somewhere between 3-4 inches on the year, most of that since May.
It felt cruel to laugh at this rant while looking at the lush green of the Maine landscape I call home. We had PLENTY of rain, early spring, midspring, late spring and even now when it’s officially summer. I probably shouldn’t tempt fate by writing that…it won’t rain for 3 weeks now. That’s a “drought” up here. I agree with Marianne, you should write a book. Maybe one together? Or start a comedy routine and go on the road with it. I’m sure Michelle would “love” that… Write on, brother!
Thanks Kris! Hey, never feel bad about your luck. Take your breaks whenever and wherever you can! Marianne and I and a book? Or a comedy routine? Hmmm.
Thank you for the uproarious laughter which shocked my dogs from their noon slumber. Oh, wait, that wasn’t written well, was it? I was the one laughing. If Marianne doesn’t accept you back into the fold, then it will be her loss. But I think (I hope!) she’s more forgiving than that. Then again, I haven’t heard from her after I posted a snarky as hell comment on one of her rants a few weeks ago… uh oh. I hope you get much needed rain soon, as much as I hope we do here in the Piedmont of NC. We had a storm come through a few days ago… over an inch in a half hour… NOTHING soaked in where I haven’t been watering regularly anyway. Good luck with your gardening-smarter-next-year plan. You should tell Marianne to remind you of that when the time comes.
Thanks Andrea! I hope you get rain soon. I’ll pray for it, and also for Marianne accepting us both back into the fold!
Never had so many plants killed by voles as I have this year. And so hot that my cat isn’t interested in watching for them. Weather wise it looks like the high pressure system that has been over us has weakened and moved off the coast so now it is at least pumping up rain-making humidity with the heat. Just hope it doesn’t now also allow hurricanes to hit.